It's Not That Complicated: The Twelve Rules For Raising Happy, Self-reliant Children

Ever find yourself embarrassed for the exasperated mother ahead of you in line at the supermarket whose child is throwing a tantrum, or the frazzled father whose teen is making a scene? Even worse, ever found yourself in their position, scratching your head as to how you ever could have raised such offspring?

As many parents can attest, the checkout line is the perfect stage for one of the most storied power struggles in human history: the battle of wills between parent and child a battle which, if not handled properly, can result in a child who is selfish, undisciplined and incapable of relating well in the world.

Enter It's Not That Complicated, a no-nonsense, practical guide for parents that exposes the twelve most common parenting mistakes and then offers simple solutions. This is not like other parenting books, written by "experts" who have Ph.D.s but have never changed a diaper. It is the culmination of author Doug Peine's years in the trenches as a parent and a practicing lawyer who often finds himself mediating battles between the adult products of bad parenting.

By following the book's easy-to-implement rules, Peine shows parents how to praise without pampering; how to instill confidence not cockiness; how to set guidelines without guilt and how to punish with purpose rather than anger. The result? Responsible, respectful, happy children who are well equipped for adulthood.

This book will show you that while being a parent can sometimes be difficult, it can also be the most rewarding experience of your life, if done right and with consistency and it's not that complicated.

While standing in the checkout line at one of the nation's largest discount stores, author Doug Peine observed the antics of a toddler defying his exasperated mother by refusing to put back a candy bar and throwing an all-out temper tantrum. It is a scene played out in stores and homes all across America every day: children manipulating their parents who haplessly try to fix the behavioral problems with misguided attempts at discipline culled from an endless parade of "experts." In this simple yet eloquent book, Peine shows readers that, in spite of the vast wealth of knowledge on childrearing and child psychology, parents are more confused than ever because much of the material is too complicated and often contradictory.

A parent himself, Peine provides two simple truths: 1) there is at work among those who parent well, a fundamental common sense; and 2) this common sense can be briefly stated and readily grasped by anyone. He has most readily observed these truths while waiting in line, where mini dramas in the parent-child struggle are often played out. The same obvious parenting mistakes occur as sure as the moon follows the sun. In It's Not that Complicated readers will learn twelve easy-to-follow rules that just might make their jobs easier. They include: mean what you say; do not force your child to make decisions; and read to your child every night before bed. These are simple truths that we usually forget.

All parents want the same things: for their kids to be happy, disciplined and compassionate toward and respectful of others. Busy, stressed-out parents will find solace in the simplicity of this book and learn that the most effective way to deal with their childrenis often in their own hearts.